30 Days of Things The Make Me Happy, Day 4, National Coming Out Day Edition

Day 4: Support, in honor of the 20th annual National Coming Out Day

Today, of all days, is a great day to talk about support. I love this more than almost anything. To have people who support me, whether in my sexuality, my music, or just life in general, is a huge blessing. Encouragement and love from those around me in an incredible thing.

If you hadn't heard before, today is National Coming Out Day. Of all the days, today is a great one to show your support. Be sure to let those around you know that you are there for them, and that they are important to you. Support is a HUGE deal for anyone looking to come out, and the more support you show for them, the more they feel loved and cared for. Keep in mind that, amidst all the support, there is also a lot of condemnation and hatred. But I can assure you, support means a lot more than hatred. The more you love, the happier everyone will be. Yourself included.

I can honestly say that coming out was a struggle for me. Bad reactions, while what I expected, were still very hard. However,the support I had from friends and family FAR outweighed the hardships. They encouraged me to be who I am, and showed they were proud of the fact that I could be myself.

It takes a lot of work to get to the point where you're ready, and I think that the longer you wait, the harder it becomes.

So here's to support! One of the happiest things I have ever seen.

Love, Aaron Jay

A new beginning. The Freedom Blog

This blog is about being open. Being honest. This is to bring to light myself, to show you that I may not be who you think I am, and that life isn't always what you'd expect it to be. My life has been chaotic, confusing, and at some points, complete and total hell. Everyone goes thru hard times, and everyone goes thru good times. This blog will be about all of these for me. But this is an introduction.

This is a simplified version of myself, a version for those who need to know me, and those who don't know me at all.

First of all, I am a Christian. God has created my life around the idea of love and non judgement. I am purely a lover, not a fighter, unless it is necessary. I get along with everyone, and love people unconditionally. But I'm finding that balance between loving people, and still having them realize I'm not a force to be reckoned with.

Despite the fact that I get nervous when it comes to confrontation, I know where I stand. I come across as insecure and unconfident, and there's a reason for that, but I know what I stand for and what I believe.

Secondly, I am gay. And this is where I lose readers and respect.

This is not something I chose, despite what most Christians believe. They'll argue for days about how it's a choice. They assume it is, because they've grown to believe that the bible says its wrong.

The point is, I'm a gay Christian, and I love who I am. God created me to be strong and to lead people. He made me gay because its a huge connector for a largely disregarded group of people in the Christian culture. I believe that I am who I am for a reason, and even tho many people will not agree with me, or understand how that's possible, it is.

God is bigger than the box we've put him into. He truly loves everyone, and gay people are not the exception.

So there you go. You know who I am. I still have a big heart, no matter how weak it may be at times. I am always going to love people unconditionally, because we are called to.

Because its who I am.


- Aaron Jay